Tuesday, January 31, 2012

Nice Girls Do Have Choices - Make Good Ones!

Wow! I just had an Ah-Ha moment listening to Kelly Rae Roberts and Beth interview Melody Ross.

Nice girls are the target for narcissistic people.  
~ Melody Ross, Brave Girls Club

It wasn't until I was in maybe my forties that I realized that I, unlike many people came from a very loving, supportive family. A family that took in every stray child on the street and every long haired hippy with no place to crash. Years ago, all my siblings married and stayed married to people who just weren't that hospitable so even though both of my brothers and my sister still walk around with an open heart, smiling, hugging everyone and making everyone feel like they are the best thing since sliced bread, in essence they have watch dogs to keep them from being taken advantage of.  I, on the other hand, don't have the watch dog to take care of me. What was I thinking? That should have been at the top of my list of things to do. But no, I have continued to be the trusting, naive girl who still takes in every broken musician, even at the age of 56. Until just recently, I believed that everyone can change with just a little love and support. Now I know there isn't enough love on the planet to change someone who isn't ready to change. Now I can stop dreaming, wishing, hoping and wanting and just go ahead and fly!

Now I am listening to Melody Ross of Brave Girls Club, talk about building her business and realizing on a very deep level that not only do we have a choice as to WHO we associate with on every level (be it personal or business) but it is important to our success to stand firm in only associating with those people that are on the same frequency as we are on. It is an important choice and sometimes a very hard one when you care about someone who isn't ready to commit to themselves and commit to making positive changes, yet still complains that their life just isn't working. Or maybe not even complaining because they don't even see how much better it can be. You just have to walk away. It is okay to say "No, this isn't going to work for me."

Huge lesson! I don't have to fix anyone no matter what kind of "potential" I see in them. All I can do is offer up the information and if it isn't taken, walk on and don't look back. This all goes back to what I learned on Oprah's Life Class :

“The first time someone shows you who they are, believe them.” ―~ Maya Angelou

Note To Self: If you feel like you are soaring in your life, continue to soar, don't look back. Don't try to carry the load for someone who isn't willing to do the work. You will find yourself crying on your knees asking yourself what you did wrong. You did nothing wrong. They were not up to the task. Move On!

If we don't see eye to eye, heart to heart on really significant values then it isn't going to be beneficial for either of us. 
~ Kelly Rae Roberts

Brave Girls Club


  1. beautifully written Christina! I can say that I to had this moment of clarity listening to Melody Ross.

    1. Hey are we on for Feb 11th? I can't wait to see all you lovely ladies!

  2. Great post Christina! You should really take Melody's Soul Restoration I and II. You would love it;D

    1. If I had known my life was going to take this turn, I would have taken Soul Restoration first. I am going to take it later. Thanks Linda for your support!

  3. So true and so beautifully said.

  4. Very thought provoking and inspirational! Thanks for sharing your heart.

  5. Hello Christina,
    I was searching for a photograph on Just Fly and you greeted me.
    I linked back to you from my post